I'm not sure that is useful in this specific situation. I'd only ask him if you are asking the other parents.
I really seems you need some simple guardianship form signed by the mother indicating she is granting the adult temporary guardianship of the child. There are web sites that can be used. Keep it simple.
Most importantly, be open with the mom. You're not a business and you don't have your own lawyers. You are only trying to do right by the child and by the organization.
The more I think about this ... I'm betting ... the mom has had to deal with this for other reasons. I'm betting she has had to setup some type of guardianship documents for her partner to use with the child. Ask the mom. Talk to her.
An interesting point ... when kids have joined my packs / troops, we never wanted evidence of who was the parent or who was a partner. We never knew if they were the legal guardian or the real parent. ... It was not our business. ... it was more the parents responsibility to name who took care of the kid. ... What we were watching for was that none of the leaders or other parents took up that role. ... We never injected ourselves into the internal family dynamics.
I'd be tempted to treat this similar. When the scout joins, have the parents tell you who the guardians are. I fear this is one where the parent asked and now you have more work.
My heart goes out to you. A gold star family. They have already lost their dad in service to our country. I'd want to bend over backwards to help them any way I could and to help the kids. ... but do it within the rules of G2SS and your good conscious.
Does anyone doubt this is a real bankruptcy? It will exit chapter 11 (reorg) or chapter 7 (liquidation). The pending legal fees alone are massive before even considering settlements and judgements.
I truly believe a failed chapter 11 bankruptcy means liquidation. Liquidation means less for most survivors because of debt priorty. "Some" in open states may get more, but most just won.t Plus, lawsuits will restart and continue for years and be extremely expensive for all parties.
It seems the best exit is a BSA only chapter 11 and soon. It reserves the most cash for victims; preserves the organization and allows the next set of legal cases to start (cases against insurance, LCs, COs, etc).
I'd prefer the current plan as it has pain for everyone and people can move on. BUT, I doubt it's future for many reasons. If the current plan is adopted, great. The sooner we can move past legal cases the better.
I just fear 2020s will be the years of continued lawsuits.
Kiddo #1 has two of four signatures so far on his Eagle Project Proposal. He plans to build a split rail fence at the local nature center to encourage people to stay on the trail in an area where some people have been wandering into the woods.
His goal is to have it done by early November. Very proudt that he presented to the parent committee, next he needs the scoutmaster and the district sign offs.