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The major point here for me (setting aside the criminal record for a moment) is that this is your boyfriend. He is not a parent, step-parent, legal guardian, or registered adult leader. For this reason alone he should not attend a cub function unless invited by the cubmaster and only within his /her parameters. I think you might be focusing too much on the criminal record piece and missing this important facet.

I can sympathize with your situation. I can also understand why you and he want to be active in this aspect of your scout's life. But, let's keep in mind that scouting is not for us. It isn't for the adults or the parents or our close loved-ones. It is for the kids and there may be, and will be circumstances where we do things for the kids that may either disadvantage the adults or otherwise not be in the adults best interests. If you and your boyfriend feel this strongly about him being an attending adult in activities then I encourage you to do two things. 1. Have him register

The judge didn't think so. The newspaper didn't think so. The scout unit didn't think so. I think it is time you wake up and smell the coffee. A felony conviction is not insignificant.

As a Committee Chair, if a parent came to me and said - my boyfriend is a convicted felon, it would give me a reason to pause. Not so much from a CYA perspective, but from a risk assessment perspective. I'd suggest giving it time. Follow their rules for a while, let them get to know him. At some point comfort and trust levels will probably be high enough that things may change. But, forcing the, issue isn't the path.

Speaking of Magic.....

Some people used to pay to keep their phone number and address private (and some still do) for a variety of reasons. I think the reason they don't make the list available to Scouts is because they want the Scouts to have a discussion with their SM. And sometimes Scoutmasters know the MBCs, and might know that this counselor is a really good one, this other one doesn't return calls, etc.

Interesting. I guess I'm down for the whole retro-vibe, although it's still drably executed. As for the color "changes," they've actually been pretty consistent with coordinating color schemes for a long while now, with the one exception of the Wolves wearing yellow hats and neckers as a holdover from the days when all Cubs simply wore blue and gold. Otherwise the Wolves have been using red as their color for many years now. I suppose it was inevitable that they would eventually switch entirely to their red color scheme, but I will miss seeing Cubs in the classic blue and gold in any case.

From this Scoutmaster's point of view, it's a shame that your OA experience has been so negative. The scouts in our troop who are active in the OA are by far our strongest leaders, and bring fresh new ideas to continually develop our program, which leads to better scout retention (and continued interest in the OA). Done properly, the OA is far more than free council labor...

The easiest way to avoid OA election drama is to not have OA elections. From a Scoutmaster's point of view, renaming free council labor as an 'Honor Camping Society' doesn't justify potentially driving away quiet scouts who have been active enough to be eligible. There is no upside for the troop. Ini-To. 1969

As a former Cubmaster, I would have concerns about any cub scout attending pack activities with any non-family member without another adult family member present. The reality is the only persons that a background check is preformed on are registered adults inside the scouting program. The difference between your father and your ex-husband attending events and your boy-friend attending events with your son is that the boy-friend is not a family member.

Those extra-planetary visitors really aren't so bad. It's the ones from alternate universes that give me the most trouble, as they tend to become scout executives.

Your boyfriend and son wouldn’t be allowed to share a tent or anything either since he is not a legal family member. It’s really up to the cibmaster and committee since he really has no right to be there since it’s not his son. Not saying it’s right, but saying how I interpret the rules.

He would probably would not be able to be a registered leader due to that, since BSA conducts background checks. But that’s just how I would think of it. Don’t think the cubmaster is out to get you when he is protecting the kids AND following the rules.

You have the right to invite or exclude anyone you want from your home. Likewise, others have the right to invite or exclude you. Under the circumstances, I think the scoutmaster is being very tolerant by allowing him to attend with supervision. The scoutmaster doesn't have to allow him to attend at all. My CO would not regard someone you are dating as being a family member. He is a guest. I would expect a guest to remain with the person who invited him, regardless of his personal history. Of course, next year, he would be considered a family member of his son.

As an Earthling..... Or if that's too Marvin Martian for you As a Terran....

So, if that is actual policy to have an adult advisor at the elections, where is that documented in the by-laws or policy? I would like to know this, because if that is the requirement then I know of a lodge who does not enforce that policy of the chapters. Thank you for the insight. On the other point about the nominations of the boys to pick out the best scout, I totally disagree that the election system works. I can show for fact, in many instances, the best scout was not nominated, sometimes due to the scouts parents being involved in the Troop as leaders. I will argue that point unti

Well, this thread's gone bust.