scoutldr

Just this past Monday, we were told by a Scout dad that "Johnny won't be going to summer camp after all. My work schedule has changed and our family vacation had to be shifted to that week." BAM, now we're out $300 bucks, because Johnny has been telling us for 6 months that he would be going, and we fronted the money to meet the Early Bird deadline of 1 March and ensure our reservation at this new camp. Most of the others have paid up, in installments, but Johnny has not paid anything yet. Never again will we front the money. THe deadline is the deadline, and if you've not paid, you don't go. Welcome to the real world. I suspect we may not be going to camp next year, because not many will commit (with real money) that far in advance.

3 days of sick leave and counting. DC says "displaced sacroiliac joint" which strained the ligaments...it felt wonderful Monday after the cold pack, electrical tingly machine, and adjustment, but the next morning I was crooked again. Lower back feels like I've been kicked by a mule, and whenever I stand for more than a few minutes, my right leg starts tingling. I go back this afternoon for another visit. As long as I stay stationary, it's fine, which drives me nuts. I can work...just can't get there...even with a HC permit, I would still have to walk about 100 yards. Luckily my boss is very understanding, I have good insurance, and I have my laptop to keep me wired to the forums! VCRs are totaled, so I won't be repairing them. It would cost more than they're worth. The TV part still works, though. If you read the "Tragedy" thread, the denouement was "distracted driving". They would not elaborate, but I suspect there was a cell phone involved. The families were very gracious and refused to assign blame, saying just that it "was a tragic accident"... There but for the grace of God go we...

Acco, couldn't agree more. I'm not a proponent of spoonfeeding, as my posting history will show. The SM and I (CC) had a lot of parking lot discussions over this one. He was never a "bad" kid...just scatterbrained and unmotivated. He almost didn't make the 18 deadline because I held the line on his project plan writeup quality. His mother even complained to Council that we were "refusing to help him get his Eagle". That almost did it for me, but I decided I wouldn't penalize the kid because mom's an idiot. Dad was in the Navy and never participated in the troop, and scout was forced to babysit infant sister most nights. I wish him well, but the ball's in his court.

Typical non-go getter scout completes Eagle after a year absence. Scouting history is that every rank was like pulling teeth. Had to push, prod, cajole, remind, every step of the way. Turns 16, gets car and job and comes to meetings about once a quarter. (I have to work!) One day, decides that to get his parents off his back, he'll complete his project. AWOL from EBOR...he "thought" that we couldn't proceed because we didn't have all recommendation letters in, so he just didn't show up. He writes letter of apology, give him benefit of doubt, EBOR is rescheduled and he does a good job. Meanwhile, he's turned 18 and is enrolled in Apprentice program at local shipyard. That was last September...haven't heard from him since. SM explained that ECOH was up to him, to decide what he and parents wanted, and let us know...anything from routine troop COH to formal affair with reception. Nothing. So how long do we wait? Just send his Eagle credentials to him in the mail? Take back to Scout shop for a refund? We feel dissed and used and we're not real keen on wasting any more of our time reminding, pleading and begging. Advice?

THe new CS motto: "What happens at the Pack meeting, stays at the Pack meeting!" I, too would have a problem with a Council giving away cash, that could be put toward program. Kids like recognition, and small prize items can be donated that won't take away from the popcorn profits. The council should set the example...would they approve a unit's fundraising application for a raffle?

I sit on Eagle Boards, and at least in my District, it would not be a problem. You might want to be prepared to answer a question about it (what was the reason that your fundraising fell short?) and what would you do differently. But it shouldn't be a deal-breaker. Good luck!

As I sit here in my La-Z-Boy with a strained back in the middle of a work day, I recollect how I got here. Last Monday, our SM (also OA Chapter advisor) asked if I could nab two of our scouts and do an OA election at a troop across town on Wednesday night. Being the "can-do" kinda guy that I am and needing a "cheerful service" tick mark for the week, I agreed. Tuesday night, I come home from work and find the OA VHS tape, DVD, written script, and blank election form with directions to the other troop stuck in my storm door. Wednesday at work, I grab a sandwich and lock myself in a conferennce room to preview the VHS tape, so that I know which of the 4 segments to play and get it cued up. Plug the tape in, the machine (TV/VCR all in one) sucks it in, whirrs for a second and then powers down. Power up and try again, the tape won't eject, won't play and the TV shuts down again. Muttering a few very decidedly un-scoutlike 4 letter words, I call the maintenance guy who takes a look and goes back to retrieve bigger screwdrivers. In a few minutes, he extracts the tape like a forceps delivery gone bad and hands it to me...but the VCR is trashed, having had mulitple parts bent in the process. So, I rush home at 5 pm, thinking I still have some time to preview the DVD, which works, but has intermittent stops, starts and flutters (It's a copy of a copy of a copy) and has visible scratches on it. SOOOOO...I think, "maybe it was the VCR, not the tape", so I go back to the bedroom and slide the tape into my wife's TV/VCR.....it sucks it in and proceeds to repeat the same thing it did at work...whirrs, click, shuts down. Eject button doesn't work. Wife comes home, and teaches me some new 4 letter words, and gives me until Saturday to get her VCR working again (she plays her yoga tape on it). So, I rush over to the other troop, arriving 15 minutes early to get their TV/DVD hooked up and cued...and it doesn't work. Nothing but snow on the screen. The TV belongs to the church and no one knew how to use it, but with 30 teens in the room, how hard can it be??? There's a bible story DVD right there, so obviously someone has used it recently. Finally, an ASM decides that he has RCA cables at home and is back in 10 minutes, hooks up the cables and VOILA we're in business! OA election successful, 2 of 3 elected (much to SM's relief who thought NONE would make it). FF to Saturday morning, I disconnect wife's TV and carry it to kitchen table for dissassembly. Sit there for an hour, finally extracting the tape after screwing a lag bolt in the front of so the pliers have something to grip. Plug in TV and BAM, VCR does not work...the tape cartridge tray is now out of alignment and a tape won't go in. I decide a new one is less than a hundred bucks, so what the heck (finding out later that you can't buy VCRs any more). Put cover back on TV and stand up and WHAM...that familiar pain shoots through my lower back which renders my back muscles into egg-like knots right under my belt line. I call #2 son and tell him to return TV to bedroom, while I swallow an 800 mg Ibuprofen and hobble to my chair. On the bright side, it did get me out of yard work the rest of the weekend. Sunday morning, I can hardly move, but wife informs me we have theater tickets at 2pm and concert tickets at 7:30. Being the macho guy I bravely get in the car, thinking that the sooner I get walking and loosened up, the sooner I'll feel better. Wrong! It did't work this time, and I had to stop 3 times to sit and rest between the parking lot and the theater, and spent two hours in pain sitting in theater seats designed for turn-of the century bottoms (and backs). I called in sick this morning, not because I can't work, but because I have to park a half mile away from my office in a parking garage and can't walk that far. My chiropractor opens at 3 pm and I will be there waiting for him... Just got a voice mail from our SM who will be late tonight because he's working late, so as the other adult with a key to the building, I will shake off the pain and drag my paralyzed body over to the church so the guys can have a meeting. So, I figure a simple good deed has cost me about $300, not counting pain and suffering, and a day of sick leave. Too bad it doesn't count towards our FOS goal.(This message has been edited by scoutldr)

I'm not aware that the BSA ever produced a true "iron-on" patch. There were cloth-backed, gauze-backed, and the current plastic-backed. Some moms (and dads :-)) mistake the plastic back for iron-on adhesive, but it's not like the iron-on knee patches that my mom used in the 60's. I have seen Star scouts still wearing a second-class patch. Their answer..."my mom never sewed the new one on." They know that's not an acceptable excuse. When I was a scout, that new rank badge or merit badge would get sewn on (by me) the same night as the COH. It's a different world.

I think it's the way kids are being raised. Back in my day, in the summer we were kicked out of the house at 8 am, and didn't return until dark. It was up to us to make our own fun. We HAD to take initiative and find things to do, otherwise we would just sit and stare at each other all day. Today, kids have "handlers" (parents) who schedule their time, make sure they get everything they want, and even do the work for them when they get overwhelmed, lest they experience diminished self-esteem. (witness a recent Eagle project performed entirely by the Mom). So when they get to scouts, and are expected to take over and lead, it's a foreign concept. THey show up at the meeting, and sit and wait for the next 15 minutes of entertainment. During BOR, I ask what they don't like...90% of the time, "boring meetings" is mentioned. When I explain to them, that the person who should fix that is in the mirror, I get the blank stare...rather than conform to the boy-led concept, which doesn't fit what they've been conditioned to expect, they would rather drop out. It does not compute and makes them uncomfortable.

I'm not a lawyer...so I'm asking...is there a difference between a troop or council organized high adventure trip and a trip organized by a commericial outfitter such as "New River Adventures". In the commercial trip, I'm assuming that the outfitter assumes liability, since everyone has to follow THEIR rules, signs THEIR release forms, and uses their equipment? I agree with the others...the OCCASIONAL younger kid (son or daughter of a leader) coming along is OK, as long as they are not disruptive. And don't forget that BSA rules (and insurance) allow for "visitors" who are eligible to join as a recruiting tool.

"An adult should never do what a Scout can do for himself." - Baden Powell I think you are missing a great opportunity for the scouts to make their own memories. I have hanging on my kitchen wall the Corkboard/blackboard that I made as a Bear (circa 1963). My Mom had it in her kitchen until she passed in 1995...now I have it. It's not much, but I still have it and remember the day(s) we made them in Mrs. Weigandt's garage.

I'll be blunt, I would be highly suspect of anyone who would answer an ad in the paper to be a Scout leader. The BSA has a prescribed method for recruiting leaders...which I'm told is tried and true. The job of finding qualified leaders is really the job of your COR, but I also realize that most CORs don't do their jobs. I would request a meeting of the people who own this problem...the COR, Unit Commissioner, DE and Pack Committee Chair.

Welcome to the forum, rich! The best slides are those that are home-made! There are many possibilities...leather, wood, rope, even plaster of paris (think candy molds). My den (circa 1985) made slides out of 35mm film canisters ... containing a mini-firstaid kit. Your scout shop may have some leather slide kits. There are some that require whittling, but Cubs are probably too young for that. You can check out eBay for some ideas...search on "neckerchief slide" and "woggle".

If they really meant it (the disclaimer), then the previous statement should read, "The goals for all Elementary School CHROME Clubs are: To provide a support system for ALL students that encourages their natural ability to excel in science and mathematics;" How welcoming would it feel, if BSA said, "we really want God-fearing heterosexuals to join, but if gay atheists insist on showing up, we can't stop them"

Unless things have changed, I don't think young scouts are supposed to "see the Ordeal being done"...non-members are not invited, except for parents who have a right to observe. I disagree with doing such things during summer camp. Mixing the two events dilutes them, in my opinion.

Also lurking on this thread, amazed at the seeming blindness to the obvious. Gonzo, there's a BIG difference between "not making one feel welcome" and having a written exclusionary policy. I dare say that NONE of the school clubs mentioned have such a written policy. For example, we have a club in our area called CHROME. It is designed to get minorities and females interested in math and engineering. From their web site: "The goals for all Elementary School CHROME Clubs are: To provide a support system for underrepresented minority and female students that encourages their natural ability to excel in science and mathematics; To provide enhancing experiences for students, showing what jobs are performed by engineers, scientists, and mathematicians; To provide role models for students; To provide career education information; To provide opportunities for students to develop speaking and writing skills; To provide stimulating and fun mathematics and science activities that enhance classroom instruction; and To provide a vehicle for students to share their interest in mathematics and science." AND, the meaningless disclaimer which makes it all legal: "While CHROME is an organization designed to benefit underrepresented minorities and females, it is NOT exclusionary; any student who is interested in a career in science, mathematics, engineering, or technology, and who wishes to join, may do so." This is something that the BSA has steadfastly refused to do, which, I believe will lead to its eventual demise, except maybe as an LDS program. Open discrimination is no longer socially acceptable in the US, just as it is no longer acceptable to have separate "white troops" and "black troops", which I remember from my youth. If the BSA doesn't become relevant to the times, they will go the way of the Dodo bird. We can be ethical and moral without being discriminatory. As my Lutheran Pastor was fond of saying...the Church (BSA?) is a hospital for sinners...not a country club for Saints.

Ice cream social night and Arrowmen are asked to wear their sashes at evening colors and dinner. Not sure the OA Lodge actually has anything to do with it, though.

If the issue is the patrol method, then that's the issue you need to address...then the sleeping issue will take care of itself. The only camping allowed in Cub Scouting is family camping. That's a CS policy, so naturally you won't find that in the SM Handbook. Gern, no one mentioned that there were special medical concerns in this case. Of course, there should be exceptions for medical issues.

That must mean they found a new supplier...Vietnam? Bangladesh?

The original post said "their family tent". The "temporary replacement" for the SPL should be the ASPL. The PL should sleep with his patrol. Agree with the others, "need more data"...

Way to go, Ea! If the units around here had been told "this is a mandatory event", the District staff would have attended it alone! There is no "district" to support. The district is just a geographic boundary. The only thing that would have been supported is the DE's performance goals. Not that that's a bad thing, but there's a more "courteous" and "friendly" way to go about it.

OK, I'll go first: Which one do you find the hardest to live by? Reverent - especially this week. I find myself questioning my faith a lot lately. So I should keep the 33 VT families in my prayers? Why would God bless them now, when He failed to bless them and protect them on Monday? 'Splain that to me so I can explain it to an 11 year old. Which one do you find the hardest to explain to a new Scout? Reverent - because if a Scout has not had a religious upbringing, they're not going to have a clue what I'm talking about. And that's a lot more common than when I was a scout. Do you feel one is more important than the others? Trustworthy - because if I can't trust you, none of the others matter and I'd rather not be around you.

Could be finances. Price of gas here is $2.79 - $3.05 per gallon (and I know that's relatively low compared to other areas). It costs my wife and I $10 a day just to get to work and back, not to mention other trips around town.(This message has been edited by scoutldr)

I've seen the patch on eBay, but I wasn't aware it was a current award.

http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/07108/778891-84.stm More details on Eagle Scout Kevin Sterne, from Troop 1313, Eighty-Four, PA