FaithfulScouter Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 (edited) Our Troop Committee recently learned that one of our Scouts lied to the Committee while presenting an update on his Eagle Scout project. The Scout was asked if a specific person had reviewed the proposal and photos and the Scout said he had, and that he had discussed other aspects of the project with him too. Upon later review, structural and safety issues were revealed. The project has now been suspended and the Scout will have to start over with another one. Time is not a concern because he is a young teenager. District Advancement and Council has been involved, although it would seem not to the CC or AC's satisfaction. Further complicating the issue is that one of the Scout's parents has escalated the issue with near physical confrontations with the SM and members of the Committee. As a Troop Committee, how should we move forward? Edited May 16, 2018 by FaithfulScouter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tampa Turtle Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 2 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: Our Troop Committee recently learned that one of our Scouts lied to the Committee while presenting an update on his Eagle Scout project. The Scout was asked if a specific person had reviewed the proposal and photos and the Scout said he had, and that he had discussed other aspects of the project with him too. The project has now been suspended and the Scout will have to start over with another one. Time is not a concern because he is a young teenager. District Advancement and Council has been involved, although it would seem not to the CC or AC's satisfaction. Further complicating the issue is that one of the Scout's parents has escalated the issue with near physical confrontations with the SM and members of the Committee. As a Troop Committee, how should we move forward? Sorry about having a mess. IMHO It seems a re-start was appropriate and good risk management--you are doing the lad a favor. Cutting corners in requirements and lying about it has potentially bigger consequences later in life. Better now then when the project is completed. Why did he do it? Seems like some "Scout Spirit" talk with the SM should be in order. The parents should back off-no scouter is getting paid to do this stuff and no boy is entitled to an eagle. If they REALLY have an issue transfer to a new troop and finish up there. Good luck with that. I do not think it is enough to stop the process, at most a pause. I have seen Scouts 'paused' for some serious character issues (drug use, stealing from the CO) that managed to re-group and move forward later. A little more info would help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagledad Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 Not really enough details to understand the question. Is the parent the problem? If so, ask the parents in for a meeting with the CC, UC and DE to discuss the situation. Aggressive adults are simply not allowed near the scouts or leaders. Nip it in the bud. Councils typically lets (wants) the units to deal with these situations, so the unit will have to be the bad guy. But they will usually support the unit leaders. Units have to take a stand against aggressive behavior. Barry 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithfulScouter Posted May 16, 2018 Author Share Posted May 16, 2018 (edited) Should the Committee invite the Scout to speak to them about the situation and explain his actions? Keep in mind, not only did he lie, he also jeopardized other people's safety. Does the Committee decide on any potential consequences? Should the SM or Committee Members reconconvene with the parents and the Scout to discuss consequences? Can the Troop bar the Scout's confrontational parent from attending Troop functions? What should happen to the money that was already raised for the initial project? Edited May 16, 2018 by FaithfulScouter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tampa Turtle Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 9 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: Should the Committee invite the Scout to speak to them about the situation and explain his actions? Keep in mind, not only did he lie, he also jeopardized other people's safety. Does the Committee decide on any potential consequences? Should the SM or Committee Members reconconvene with the parents and the Scout to discuss consequences? Can the Troop bar the Scout's confrontational parent from attending Troop functions? What should happen to the money that was already raised for the initial project? You have to decide was the intent malicious and self-serving or just scout-stupid with unintended (safety) consequences? Scouts do stupid all the time. He has to do a re-start anyway. Separate the boy's project from the parents issue. This is pretty speculative advice. Was this a dock or walkway or deck or structure? Who did he lie about meeting with? The SM, the beneficiary, or some engineer? Did the parent encourage him? Has he poisoned his relationship with the beneficiary? Re-starting a project, redoing the paperwork approval process, or even starting a completely new project is not that unusual. It is an important, and frustrating part of the educational process. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagledad Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 (edited) The scout's situation was handled. That is why council isn't doing more. So it seems the parents are upset with the decision. The troop just needs to support the decision for the scout to start over with another project. Seems like a pretty fair act of discipline to me. Many troops would have asked the scout to leave. But scouting is giving scouts the opportunities to learn life's lessons from their choices in the troop. The troop is giving the scout the chance to learn and grow from his bad decision. Yes, the troop can bar the parent from troop functions. Actually it's a choice. The parent can choose to stay away from functions, or the family can change troops. Our troop has done it several times. Some parents chose to stay away, some chose to change troops. As for the money, it really depends on who donated the money and what the scout decides to do with the next project. I would invite the scout to be part of the discussion. This is the time for the scout to really show his metal by accepting the troops decision and moving forward with the project, and asking his parents to back down. Or not, and forcing the troop leaders to make tough decisions about how the deal with this situation, and situations like them in the future. This is when a good strong CC is worth their pay. It's these kinds of situations that drove me to find strong minded CCs. In my case, they were usually women. Mothers don't put up with....this stuff. Barry Edited May 16, 2018 by Eagledad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ItsBrian Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 First of all- I applaud you that you and the committee had the guts to suspend it and make him redo it. I wish our committee did that for someone’s project. Youre doing him a favor as you said, if you don’t want to be harassed, then get the district involved. The money from his current project has to go to the beneficiary due to its being their money. technically. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithfulScouter Posted May 16, 2018 Author Share Posted May 16, 2018 Does the Charter Organization rep have to be involved in this? It was suggested that the rep has to sign off on any Committee decision regarding the situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jameson76 Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 53 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: Our Troop Committee recently learned that one of our Scouts lied to the Committee while presenting an update on his Eagle Scout project. The Scout was asked if a specific person had reviewed the proposal and photos and the Scout said he had, and that he had discussed other aspects of the project with him too. Upon later review, structural and safety issues were revealed. The project has now been suspended and the Scout will have to start over with another one. Time is not a concern because he is a young teenager. District Advancement and Council has been involved, although it would seem not to the CC or AC's satisfaction. Further complicating the issue is that one of the Scout's parents has escalated the issue with near physical confrontations with the SM and members of the Committee. As a Troop Committee, how should we move forward? Just curious (in general terms) what the project was and what the issue was. Not discounting anyone's input, but we had a Scout building a bridge, had the plans, then a structural engineer (also volunteer) at the beneficiary wanted to be involved and it went sideways from there. He basically wanted a footbridge that could hold a car, while it was in fact a short footbridge on a trail. It needed to be built to "his" standards. Point is there are typically minimum structural standards and then you may have someone who has their standard because, well they know best and we must acknowledge their knowledge Now if the Eagle candidate was supposed to meet this specific person, maybe tried to meet, and they were not available, not cooperative, wanted to have the scout do it "their" way and the Boy Scout after some interaction just said heck I'm trying to get this done and plunged ahead, then it is a life lesson. Hopefully he comes away with an understanding of how to call on people to assist, how to involve the Eagle coach, his SM, and get a meeting of the minds to move something forward. If he just never even contacted, reached out, or never tried to engage this person but said he had because he just did not want to, that is another issue 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithfulScouter Posted May 16, 2018 Author Share Posted May 16, 2018 The project was a renovation of an exterior structure and the Scout was to speak to an Assistant Scout Master who is a builder. The Scout tried to set up a time with the ASM but did not follow up when the initial time was not within the ASM's schedule. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagledad Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 6 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: Does the Charter Organization rep have to be involved in this? It was suggested that the rep has to sign off on any Committee decision regarding the situation. It's best to have them on your side. If they are active, I would get them involved, but the majority of charters around here don't get that involved. This is really about safety in the unit. Both adults and scouts need to feel the unit is a safe place. You have a better feel for the temperments of all involved. This may be nothing more than sitting down with the parents with a cup of coffee. But we learned the hard way to deal with these things quickly before emotions escalate. Barry 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David CO Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 9 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: Does the Charter Organization rep have to be involved in this? It was suggested that the rep has to sign off on any Committee decision regarding the situation. That would all depend on what sort of action the committee is contemplating. Does the COR need to be involved in any/every decision? No. I think the unit has already been too much involved in this boy's project. It is his project, not the unit's project. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David CO Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 58 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: What should happen to the money that was already raised for the initial project? It's none of your business. Stay out of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David CO Posted May 16, 2018 Share Posted May 16, 2018 25 minutes ago, FaithfulScouter said: The project was a renovation of an exterior structure and the Scout was to speak to an Assistant Scout Master who is a builder. The Scout tried to set up a time with the ASM but did not follow up when the initial time was not within the ASM's schedule. Who told the scout to meet with the ASM? Was the scout given the option of meeting and consulting with someone else for expert advice? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ParkMan Posted May 16, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted May 16, 2018 I'm a CC and I think the Committee needs to take a step back here. A large part of Scouting is providing an environment where Scouts can learn and grow. You've got a young scout who made a mistake. Let the scout and the SM deal with it and move on. The point here is to coach the scout, help him to see his error, and then figure out how to move forward. 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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