She’s just fulfilling her responsibility as cubmaster. All you have to do is prove her wrong & that the felony does not show who he is now. As bearess said, it’ll take a long time. Just make sure your children’s program are not affected.
I honestly just wanted to know if the Pack, or the cub master, had the authority to say what was said. My mind began to race and wonder why this was an issue, if it had been discussed at a committee meeting, or if it was just her own personal issue with him, specifically. As I said previously, I had never heard of this being an issue with anyone else in the Pack, aside from the sex offender issue. When I first began to date him, she made a comment about his character in a private conversation, which led me to believe she had a personal problem with him. You must also understand the small town mentality of the community I live in, where every rumor is true. It is also very awkward when we attend Pack events. So I know that this was mentioned in a public forum with other parents. Which is fine. It is what it is... he is not my son’s father. Understood.
The cubmaster made too many presumptions, and could’ve asked, instead of making her own judgment, creating tension for me. I didn’t do anything wrong or that warranted what was said. Nor did I ever have intentions of leaving him alone at an event with his “nonchildren”.
Al that to say, I really just wanted to know if the cubmaster had the authority. And apparently she does. Rules are rules.
@The Latin Scot It’s a strange time for us LDS Scouters, with such a range of emotions.
I’ve been involved in Scouting for most of my life as a boy and now an adult leader. Thomas S. Monson (recent LDS President and Silver Buffalo) famously said: “Decisions determine destiny”. BSA has shown us that decisions can also detour destiny.
I’ve never been divorced, but I wonder if there are steps of acceptance and withdrawal that may apply here as we transition and move on.
I’m glad we will have the next 18 months to work through this (both personally and organizationally). Especially for the most dedicated of LDS Scouters, there will be a lot to work through.
Sad but true. Parents? Only as necessary. Talk to, deal with the Scout. It is his rank to earn, not the parent(s). The Scout may need to deal with "dad". I have been in some meetings where the dad/mom did all the asking, and we had to keep directing the questions/answers to the Scout, and effectively ignore the parent.
Safety issues? Direct the Scout to the County Building permit office. If the structure is on the CO's land, they do not want to have to deal with "after effects" if it is wrongly done. Scoutson wanted a "barn" for his 4H rabbit projects. We included him in all the planning, permitting (this is not a SHED, it is a 30 by 12 BARN) , costs, reviews, inspections... An education for all of us, especially him .
Deal with the Scout. Let him deal with the parent.
This is a silly game. Let's find a way to parse what the CEO said so we can ignore the reality.
The specific program formerly known as Boy Scouts is not going co-ed. The BSA is starting a parallel implementation of the same program in which girls can participate. Overall, the membership policies of the BSA will now allow both girls and boys the ability to fully participate in it's offerings. In Cub Scouts, the girls and boys will participate in the same program, but in parallel dens. In Scouts BSA, the girls and boys will participate in the same program in parallel troops. Both Venturing and Sea Scouts are already fully co-ed.