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Hi All We had a scout who practiced Black Witchcraft. He was one of those scouts that I once got calls from the police. Truely a very troubled boy from a a very troubled family. He loved our troop because it was an escape from his real life. We liked him a lot also. My advice is approach him honestly like I approached our scout. Explain the concern most folks have with Witchcraft and they think it is evil. I told him that it was not my place to preach or sway him one way or the another. Normally I would suggest talking with the parents, but in this case no. I asked that he consider not talking about his beliefs, but instead just observe everyone in the troop. He will find most of the other scouts aren't out spoken either. Scouting is a great place to watch and learn. Leave it at that and I think your OK. It worked for our scout in the Witchcraft area. I sure wish we could have done more with the rest of his life. Good luck. Barry

Great answers Curtis. Sounds like the program did what is was supposed to do, and you did what your were supposed to do. Looking back on it, I know that scouting help me be a better man, husband and father. Oh and a better scout leader. I don't have the Eagle to show for it like you, only my intergrity. I think the difference between you and I have nothing to prove myself at the begining. Your Eagle has already given you the start. Hey thanks for the thoughtful answers, they were really good. I love this scouting stuff. Barry

>>Sorry to do this to you, BUT there are lots of ways to get where we are going, please don't just try and pin everything on one idea...

>>I really didn't like it back then, but I do think that good has (now that we've finished growing up) it's been good in the long run.

>> So why would we want to put these guys back into the mix where they are always "little grass hopper!.

Hi All Yes, we had some of it in our Troop. I was the butt of a few jokes with some parents that I was anti Eagle because I was quietly aginst the idea. But they loved our program because many of these families had several sons and just about all of them now have their Eagle. I love this scouting stuff. Barry

>>So, I would plead gently for civilized discourse, and respect for my views as a Christian without the homophobe label. I have no fear of homosexuals, but I am taught by Scripture not to condone sin, either.

Hi All Anarchist has some great stuff. Considering the idea of multiple smaller trailers so a diesel rig isnt required to pull it. Im reaching way back into my gray matter, but I think a trailer heavier than 850lbs empty really needs a truck size vehicle to pull it when loaded. While multiple trailers does require additional storage and security requirements, they also give you more options of including cars and mini vans. The second largest Troop in our district (120 scouts) owns five 6x10 steel trailers. They grab only what they need for the number of scouts going on an outing. We have on several occasions needed both our trailers because the Troop and high adventure crew were on separate outings at the same time. Consider steel over aluminum. Our steel trailer is stronger, lighter and cheaper for the quality than our aluminum. Seems like aluminum would be lighter, but they need plywood walls to protect the aluminum walls from shifting cargo, steel doesnt. Consider wood floors because they are easier to replace than rusted steel floors. Consider 15 inch wheels because smaller wheels have a higher risk of burning out bearings. Consider mounting the spare tire inside your trailer to prevent theft. We like it mounted high up on the door. High so it doesnt take up cargo space and on, or near, the door so you dont have to empty the trailer to get to it. The company from which we bought our steel trailer liked this idea so much, they are now offering this option to all their customers. The 6 ft. wide is a lot easier to pull than the 7 ft. for most cars with stock mirrors. The wheel distance on our 7 ft. trailer is wider than my Suburban. Consider getting it as tall as you can so you can stand up strait. Consider a trailer that has the axle mounted slightly aft of center so that the trailer doesnt tip up when you enter it unhooked from the vehicle. You will understand what I mean when you go look at trailers. Consider getting electrical hookups that fit all your towing vehicles. There are two popular types(cant remember what they are called) for trailers of this size. We keep both hookups in a bag in the trailer. Those are a few of the lessons we have learned the last 14 or so years. Barry

This is normal for this age. There are a lot of changes going on in his life. He is getting away from the age of hanging with groups to feel good about himself. Now he starting to look beyound acceptance in the group to acceptance in the the world. His emotions are starting to get mixed up and now he doesn't want to do things just because someone says so. He is growing into a man and the urges that come with that are independent thinking. He wants purpose to his actions and scouting is getting in the way of that. This is when I ask parents to push just enough. Enough to keep him active without stepping to much into his space. Beg, make deals or even give money, but keep him in the program because in most cases, this will only last about year. Once you get through that, he will feel a belonging with the program again, provided the program is mature for him. And that is important. He needs a man size responsibility to feel good about himself. The uniform is a big clue. When we humans get at the age of questioning ourselves and world, we tend to want to discard things that don't make sense. I would expect that your son is protesting in some small way as well by not wearing as expected. He is rebelling and that is how youth at this age challenge others with their questions. Take the challenge and teach him. Sometimes it is you that will learn a lot because maybe you will find he is right. I got my boys through these times by making a deal. I told them that I wouldn't expect them to go to everyone meeting or campout, but they could only one meeting a month, and one camp out every six months or so. This is hard because I was the SM. As for uniform, I got good at explaining the value of it and loyalty of doing the right thing. In most cases, he will have no trouble with the uniform when he reaches 14 or 15. We had two groups go to Philmont last year. It was very clear that the 13 to 14 year olds had little respect compared to the 15 16 year old group. Eventally they grow past it. But your son has a lot on his mind and scouting challenges a lot of that. Give him some room like you have been doing, but don't give in for at least another year. Barry

Good reply anarchist The ASM responsible for Quarter masters called me Saturday night and confessed he felt it was part his fault. He had planned to build the anchor lock for both trailers but just hadn't got to it yet. The reason the thieves didn't get our other trailer was because it had the socket lock you talked about. Unfortunatly the other trailer had an unusual tongue where the socket lock would not work. The cut right through the other lock. Good advise and I will send your post to him. Barry

Hi All The tale starts a month ago on a Monday when a committee member happen to see their troop trailer with their Troop number painted on the side being pulled by a car that didn't belong to anyone in the troop. She called the police and the Troop got their trailer back that day while the thieves get free food and lodging for their efforts. Now lets zip up to yesterday. I got a call from the CC asking if our trailer was insured. Yep, it was stolen sometime last week along with our sponsor's church trailer. It is insured by our sponsor, so no problem there, but the one major difference between our trailer and the other troop is we didn't put any identifiable markings like our troop number and city. It is likely we will never see it again. The CC is already planning to get the Troop number put on our new High Adventure trailer. It was broken into as well, but it wasn't taken because it had a different kind of lock the theives couldn't break. Thus the story has a lesson. I know there was a lot of luck envolved for the other troop to get their trailer back, but I guess we didn't really give ourselves much of a chance. YIS Barry

Hi All There are some really good replies. Your scouts must make amends if they are get anything out of scouting. We had a situation like on an AF Base. I knew what had to happen and I had two concerns. One that the youth leaders set the plans to make amends. The other was that all the scouts see the moral wrong of the situation. I agree with others that you can't leave the park the way it is. The scouts must understand that. But it's the scouts who need to make contact, find out the damage and figure out how to pay for it. It's unfair that these owners view all scouts as bad from the performance of a very few. It's time they see what scouting is all about. The base also didn't want to have anything to do with us, but eventally got them to understand they we could let it stand as it was. We ended doing several service projects. Your scouts will step to the plate. You need to pretty much show your disapointment, explain the larger ramifications of a few. Then let them talk it out and figure a plan. They will not disapoint you. Our PLC also took three scout meetings and did a program on proper behavoir. There is alot of material out there. It turned into a troop project. As for the scouts who caused the problem. They need to understand that such actions can't go without retrubution. Ask them, what are they going to do. Either they can fix this now, or it can hang or their head as long as they are in the troop. One action on the troop is they can never be trusted to be alone again. Everytime they go into a store, shop or anyplace where they can cause harm, there will be someone asigned to watch them. We did this to a scout who cause damage at our church during a meeting and he has not been trouble since. More than anything else, I've learned that scouts in a boy run program hate to loose the trust of others. Nothing like an adult or older scout following your around while everyone else is free to come and go. What you are trying to do is give the scout notice that you expect them to deal with this kind of behavoir. ITS NOT YOUR PROBLEM, it's theres. And you expect them to take the responsibility seriously. Than is just who you are, and either they except that, or move on. What you want to happen is the other scouts stopping the one scout before it gets to this point. Barry

>>WHY are so many people so scared of having an atheist around their christian kids? Afterall, there are "no benifits" to being an atheist.

>>To my knowledge there has NEVER been any radio or TV commerical trying to convert people to the idea that there is NO God.

>>Discrimination Against Me

>>Barry, as your probably know, psychologists really don't care much about what is "normal."

>>I agree one zillion billion per cent. Now, if we could only get BSA to agree.... :-)

>>implying that this biology is somehow chosen. (sigh) This may be a popular opinion, but it has no scientific basis.

>> I would much rather have untrained homosexual leaders running a troop then to have bigots who discriminate and promote intolerance against minorities, other religions and homosexuals.

>>How come the only elements of scouting anybody ever talks about when the want to be like other countries is having homosexual leaders and different uniforms uniform.

>>Off hand, this is what I would recommend. The adult leaders should set up a HQ camp. This can be at the starting point of the hike, somewhere in the middle, or wherever you choose.

This is easy because the situation is still distant. Maybe another poll should be started because I don't want to hijack this from Semper, but what if the Scoutmaster announced he is gay. Do you want him to be your sons role model? Would it be OK if he brought his life partner? Barry

>>See, I'm much less concerned about "injustice" or "fairness" on this issue... for me it is not about whether gay men should be Scoutmasters.

>>The ADVANCEMENT method doesn't have to strictly mean TF-Eagle. It means helping a young man structure his growth and development.

Yes, but to be fair Snake, we need to evauate the programs. 1. Are they boy run, adult run, MB driven? 2. Number of scouts in the troops. 3. Aged based patrols or mixed age. 4. Quality of first year program. 5. Over all quality of program from 1 to 10, 10 being the best. There are some good reasons for a 12 month NSP, aged based patrols being a good one. Barry