Jump to content

qwazse

Members
  • Content Count

    8462
  • Joined

  • Last visited

  • Days Won

    102

Everything posted by qwazse

  1. If he's really happy with his current bag, I'd hesitate to change until he grows out of it. I've found that sleeping pads, fleece/wool blankets, caps, and scarves are my friend. When he puts on a little weight and height, that's when the zero-degree bag makes a big difference. I haven't been able to beat (but have rarely been able to afford) Big Angus.
  2. qwazse

    Qualities of an Eagle

    As one whose beard is greying, and who is facing the prospects of World Jambo and 20-something SMs from the rest of the world, you are right. What keeps many of us in? Well, luck. I've lost some good friends over the years, so I know that my nights counting stars are limited. money and time. Our country is very unique in that many retirees have made a decent nest egg. being nice. The first two don't matter if someone complains too much to our COR. war and college. It takes our young SM's/ASM's away from us right when we need them the most. Us oldies need to sub in for them until they return and can tell their boss they ain't working double shifts no more. smiles. I say it again and again ... but there is no place where I see happier young people than when they settle themselves down in the middle of the wilderness. Maybe not the first time, but they keep coming back. Then finally learning how to rest easy.
  3. qwazse

    Qualities of an Eagle

    Oh, the presumption that my quips are only delivered to boys ... but the let's just assume that's the case, and that what I say might lead to some Sooner enforcing his ideals of 'kept women. (Sorry, Barry, couldn't resist). The first link was a "love marriage"; therefore, tragically makes a case for my point. Unions based on emotion make great novels, but those things fade and render a person who cannot make a living in his/her own right vulnerable to abuse. Would that her husband and family could rise above this. They couldn't. The case in your second link is perhaps far more complicated. In the 18th-19th century, William Carey tried collaborated closely with Indian scholars to build a nation who voluntarily resisted the culture of Sati. The subcontinent is seeing rejection of perceived 20th century government overreach and touting of over-zealous Hindu nationalism. (Not unlike our Alt-Right who hang their hats on "old time" Christian or Pagan Aryanism, which has no documented basis in the ancient dogmas of either religions.) The motives of my in-country MENA cousins are even more complex. They believe that they must "win," and they only see themselves "winning" through heirs, a strategy that makes them wholly dependent on women. In this context, a woman's wealth or skill is immaterial. Be the marriage for love or money, a wife is liability until sons rise up to defend the household according to mantras like "Me against my brothers, my brothers against my cousins, my cousins against the world." I am finally old enough to be trusted to converse with (some) young MENA women, and it's captivating to hear them sift through a mix of ancient and post-modern ideals. It's also interesting watching the young men try to keep up. (Look up PBS's Frontline episodes of Our Man in Iran.) I have no idea where the chips will land with that lot. But, I assert that challenging young men and women in that culture to seek out the endowed and industrious for mates puts them on more solid footing. I'm not a fan of transactional if-you-give-X-expect-to-get-Y approaches to marriage. Talking to someone about the cost of a relationship smacks of prostitution ... My working assumption is that a youth will go "all-in" for their spouse. The question then boils down to what kind of person he/she should go "all-in" for? My answer is not pat. It's provoking. I've never been inclined to put a gag on my kid's adult leaders. If they were afraid to give my youth proverbs that trouble Mrs. Q and I, they might also have been afraid to tell them something dreadfully important. As the kids grew, we could discuss who said what and why they did. The snide remark is none of the above. It is Hephnerism at its best ... fulfilling the Cosmopolitan ideal that we all are best treated as parts for temporary use and subsequent disposal. It is precisely the standard by which young men and women in the past 50 years have been brought up to evaluate one another. Some great and powerful people have learned to live by it. It echos from teen tents of both sexes late at night. It's what you get when people like me don't talk to your youth the way we do.
  4. It's like our Venturing registration (a.k.a. paper crews) spawned an evil twin (a.k.a. paper membership) 12 years later! I'll spare you the details. Bottom line: registration "numbers" are a bold-faced lie. To whom it may concern ... in any report from your council or national, insist on tallies of paid registrations or throw the report back in the exec's face. You would do well to call your council president and let him/her know what's going on. (Ours was in our troop, so I didn't need to go far to report shenanigans.)
  5. qwazse

    Qualities of an Eagle

    I do not know from any personal experience, but my understanding of mistresses and house-boys are that they are neither rich nor good cooks. Speaking of "less developed countries" my father-in-law first noticed my mother-in-law while they were tending crops in the hinterlands of western PA. He saw her work-ethic and thought, "She'll do." Demean the "help-mate" criteria all you want, but to this day, I am reaping the benefits of that union.
  6. qwazse

    Starting a new troop: Budget items

    Lots of little things will come up as your scouts determine program elements. Storage shelves, lighters/matches, candles, tables, whipping string, lumber for projects like klondike derby sleds and camp boxes. Compasses. GPS. If you all are doing a lot of acquatics: pfds, oars paddles. If bicycling: helmets, pumps, repair kits. Map sets!
  7. Well, if it's the Big Ten you're referring to, most of us Christians have been off by a day! Still, we would do well to take @perdidochas's exhortation to be consistent with St Paul's exhortation to "Forsake not the assembling of yourselves together." We could split hairs over weekly church attendance being a duty or an honor. Or if we think Saints and Bishops got it wrong. But, I don't think most of us are satisfied an answer to the tune of "I'm not that kind of Christian."
  8. qwazse

    2018 GUIDE TO SAFE SCOUTING

    There is a bit of "eye of the beholder" going on. For example, having a couple of scouters 100 yards away in an open meadow -- while the SPL/ASPL may shuttle between scouts and adults as needed -- is what I call "reasonably engaged." But, last week we backpacked mostly first-years over moderate terrain to an idyllic, but narrow site between thickets and a stream. My dog was the only seasoned backpacker under the age of 13! So, yes, the adults were within eyesight and earshot. On the other hand, if this group keeps itself together, in 3 years, we'll be on the opposite side of the valley from them. They may even show up with a hike plan, and if I'm convinced of their training, I'll let them work it and rendezvous with them at the end of the trail. So, we bend the PM to fit the terrain.
  9. qwazse

    Qualities of an Eagle

    It's like I have a long-lost brother! When ever we visited home Mrs. Q helped prepare meals, Dad would come up to her and make sure she knew which cupboard had the garlic! I do share these criteria to scouts of both sexes tongue-in-cheek, but also to help them think about core values. Are they outdated and sexist? What, pray tell, should be a post-modern nomad's criteria for mate selection? Beauty? Personality? Desire? Wits? Beauty vanishes, personalities change, desire waxes and wanes, wits dull, but ... If your spouse leans into the plow and secures wealth for your family and the poor in your community, you may hike and camp more and work double shifts less. If your spouse puts out a good meal, you may be presumed fed ... and freer to welcome the stranger to your table. So, yes, I am having a little fun, but provoking thought at the same time.
  10. qwazse

    Qualities of an Eagle

    Sounds like the sister would be in the dog house after that recommendation!
  11. I agree with sewing as the best strategy. Obviously, that means a fella can't swap out a temporary patch but once a year while taking online YPT (that might be the only spare time someone has) ... so choose your absolute favorite. Mine's been on for nearly 40 years (actually hopped from shirt to shirt once ).
  12. qwazse

    Starting a new troop: Budget items

    The problem about tarps (and most modern tents with low-slung flys) in winter: to keep "exhalation frost" from building up on everything, it's actually best to allow for a lot of ventilation. So the trick is proper alignment of vents, and bodies. That requires lots of practice that 1st years obviously do not have. In the days canvas floorless tents, piling snow around piled around the walls of the tent not only blocked wind, but attracted condensation. So even in calm frozen nights when the flaps weren't kicking open, canvas walls were frost-free on the inside. (Although folding them at the base could be rough if you packed the snow to tight!)
  13. qwazse

    Starting a new troop: Budget items

    Well about 1/2 or fewer bring their own tents. Boys decide among themselves who's bringing whose tent. The "or fewer" is on account of older scouts who tend to be "tarpologists" or hammockers. I've encouraged this out of memories of being in college in the big city and wanting to "get out" but not having ever bought a tent of my own and suddenly on a tight budget, I had to rely on the generosity of strangers. Son #1 came into the troop with a family-size armory of canvas. He soon saved up for his own (or got it for a present, can't remember). Mrs. Q, would bargain hunt and garage sale. so our family was well stocked with the intention that our kids would be able to provide for their buddies. Other families were of similar ilk. And, most of us don't like to see gear sitting idle. I guess it depends on the culture of your community. The troop does have a small collection of lightweight models for boys who want to try a backpacking tent.
  14. qwazse

    Starting a new troop: Budget items

    In terms of budget cycle, most troops want to take stock of accounts after all summer camp money is spent. That would include purchases of awards for the CoH. The checkbook balance is probably your lowest at that point. Our troop doesn't have tents. So, I can't tell you when to make those purchases for those new webelos. But, it sounds like you're on the right track of making a reasonable plan for growth, that helps set the mark for fundraisers.
  15. qwazse

    Lawnmower Parents

    I gotta brag about Son #1. A family was in dire straits with their baby hospitalized for an extended period. So he swung by their place every week this summer and mowed their lawn. Once coming back from them he stopped and weed whacked at my place because I had injured myself the week before, and he was afraid I'd overdo it. I have a lawnmower kid!
  16. qwazse

    Crawfish

    After hiking in a good three miles to camp by a favorite stream, the boys took to catching crawfish, then using up my fuel to boil water. I told them it was just sinful ... to cook them without garlic and butter, which of course they didn't have. But they did have spicy pumpkin seeds! So, they boiled them first to dissolve the salt and chili powder, then added the five crawfish they had. They said they tasted great!
  17. qwazse

    YPT

    On one level, I agree that getting everyone on the same page has intrinsic value. But, there needs to be a way to deliver that training during the time that parents are with their kids on the activity. I think units are almost there, but not quite. For example, YPT in "multi-player" mode would enable parents to circle up during a meeting and knock out their modules with the added benefit of community discussion. Right now, they only way that can happen is having a trainer at the ready. On another level, do I really care if my kid is being taught to paint a PWD car by someone who got caught with a late teen when they were in their twenties? No. That's mainly because, for every one of those, there may be twice as many who were never arraigned ... and those are the ones I'm betting on to be an imminent threat. Better the snake you know ... Should I take comfort in BSA being able to deny liability (because of their comprehensive policy) if some predator slips through the cracks? I'm guessing in the long run, it will help keep dues low.
  18. qwazse

    Linked Troop Mission Statement

    What your SM does is probably better, in a sense that he has tailored it to his scouts and their interests. But ILST is usable pretty much out-of-the-box for your new SM to deliver to new youth leaders (but it sounds like you really won't know who those are for a few months), then the next time, those seasoned youth leaders deliver it to the new leaders.
  19. qwazse

    Parent in need of advice

    The other constructive way that you can handle this suspension time is getting to know the other scout families better, one at a time. Invite a family in your boy's patrol over for dessert or go out for ice cream. Maybe even start with the family of the boy who your son hit. Explain that it's your way of making up to them, but also a way of teaching your son to think better of people so he can respond with kindness and courtesy instead of anger when he's stressed. This doesn't have to consume much time -- maybe a half hour -- unless the boys have something in common like a game they want to play. But maybe this will give your son an idea that he isn't just in a holding pattern, but that he's working on things that will make being in the troop more fun when he returns.
  20. qwazse

    Linked Troop Mission Statement

    Got it! So, what age range are you actually dealing with? The full 10-14? Or is it more like 11-12 year olds? I ask because if you have a few interested 13-14 year olds, or you this lot of youngsters seem like a bunch of natural born leaders, you may want to put Introduction to Leadership Skills for Troops ILST on the agenda for a December or January activity. That might be a good complement to those SPL/PL handbooks. The other way that I think linked troops could use ILST is for the two PLC's to do it together. (I say "do" rather than "take" because it's actually designed to be run by youth with your SMs/ASMs in the back of the room.) Over the long run I think this is a good way for the boys to compare notes with the girls and make sure they are each doing their part to deliver on the promise of scouting. I don't know, however, if it's a good idea for a joint ILST in the beginning of year 1 -- especially if the boys have been doing it yearly already. The only reason is from my experience with Venturing, is HS girls don't like to step up when they think there's a boy who's had experience with the task in question. At the end of that first year, one or two of the girls who've taken the course will be ready to team up with their male counterparts in delivering it.
  21. qwazse

    Linked Troop Mission Statement

    Ditto Barry. Your mission statement is already written for you . What you are talking about are 1/2 by-laws and 1/2 transition plan. Fiddling with your outline just a little you have: Separate resources Meeting rooms Female Adults (SMs and Committee?) Training Female Youth Training Schedule of Events Shared resources Building Meeting time Meeting elements (to be determined) Courts of Honor SPLs share the script? Equipment (The 5 troop waiver thing sounds really confusing. If I were a COR, I would tell you to use our gear and add to it.) Trainers Senior MCs and ASMs Senior PLs/JASMs/TGs? Explorers/Venturers? Events - at invitation of the host PLC As you discuss with our people, items may move up and down. My only thought is two committees could be an undo burden on the CO/COR. Either you are asking the COR to devote time to two committees, or asking the CO to cough up another COR, and then those two CORs would have to compare notes. If I were you, I would only treat this as a plan for the first half of 2019 and schedule an evaluation after summer camps (include MC's, SPL's, and SM's). I don't get what good an Explorer Club does for 6 months. But maybe if you explain it may help some other stranger on the internet.
  22. qwazse

    YPT

    @Zebra132, the bitter truth? Based on the literature you cited, if BSA were plain spoken, the simplest synonym they would choose for "adult participants": liabilities.
  23. qwazse

    Oh Shoot, Worksheets in Cubs

    I'm never a fan of worksheets. It robs scouts of any age of a piece of creativity. Writing one's requirement on a page of a field notebook by oneself is empowering.
  24. qwazse

    Venture Advancement

    It may impact membership. Jr. High girls who've been told to wait three years to join a crew might opt to start a troop and have so much fun, they won't think twice about Venturing. That's a long term hit to the pipeline. Venturing females who join a troop probably won't quit their crew. If they want to scramble to earn first class, I suspect most leaders will help them. But, that won't stop any girl from still earning her next venturing award. For example, if a 17 gets her crew to give her troop (or maybe an entire district of troops) of 11 year a olds a weekend of five-mile land navigation hikes, her PL might sign of on 1st class rank, and her Crew President might sign off on a Tier II adventure. Male venturers have been pulling these kinds of "amp it up" antics with their troops for decades -- even if they weren't interested in Venturing awards. My bet is that dual-registered girls who started to earn one will try to earn both. Venturers don't switch, they synergize.
  25. qwazse

    Venture Advancement

    None whatsoever. The requirements for Venturer, Discoverer, Pathfinder, and Summit will remain the same.
×