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  1. I'm surprised we don't hear about more issues with the YMCA.

    Perhaps my BSA training has made me hypersensitive to compromising situations. When taking my son to swim lessons, I skip the family changing area and opt for the men's room where they still have a dedicated wing for parents of young children. The locker room is partitioned for privacy (seriously, it's like a maze), but that also would make it difficult for a staff member or well-meaning bystander to intervene if they saw inappropriate activities. We always try to get in and out as fast as possible (you can shower at home, kid).

    The Y has been great for our family - youth sports, swim lessons, summer childcare, etc. (all at a reasonable cost), but when you have that many people changing clothes every day in close proximity to one another, you would think the potential for impropriety would be massive.

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  2. It looks like this ill-fated program was rolled-out during my 15-year Scouting hiatus between the time I worked at my local council camp in college and when my son was old enough to join Cub Scouts.

    I'm guessing the aftermath of the Global Financial Crisis put an emphasis on marketable degrees and the BSA (already suffering from membership declines), tried to prop themselves up by attaching themselves to the STEM movement? And people actually voted to turn Scouts into night school? 😂

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  3. @fred8033, one of the first Google hits I came across suggested that Girl Scout membership declined from 2.8 million in 2003 to ~1 million in 2021. This would be a point-to point decrease of ~65% over an 18-year span.

    According to a table I pulled from Wikipedia, BSA membership went from 3.2 million in 2003 to ~1 million in 2021. This would be a point-to point decrease of ~69% over the same period.

    While some of the BSA's issues have been self-inflicted, I do think the membership challenges are part of a larger societal trend - kids just have a lot more choices these days (and that's OK). The BSA needs to become a leaner and more agile to stay relevant. Local Scouting can still thrive.

     

    Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts suffer huge declines in membership | AP News

    Boy Scouts of America membership controversies - Wikipedia

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  4. @jumpingjoj, I'm not too familiar with the bankruptcy process. How exactly did a scout leader get roped into this?

    Aside from someone getting physically hurt under my charge, this is pretty much my worst nightmare as a scout volunteer. Unless the accused wanted to lawyer-up to clear their name (with a limited success rate and drawing more attention to themselves in the process), their efforts may be better spent elsewhere. We're only given so much time on this Earth - why spend it on an organization that would turn on them so quickly?

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  5. 8 hours ago, ramanous said:

    To clarify, I am looking for measures of success of the youth from the perspective of a Scouter. For example, one of my least favorite measures is probably "How many Eagle Scouts did we produce during my tenure?" But, alternatively, one that I think might be good is "How many (percentage) of our Scouts made it to First Class?" I'm not really sure why I think that; its just a gut feeling at this point.

    To that end, I'd suggest looking at how many scouts have been active up to high school (regardless of rank). If a scout has been in the program for 3-4 years, they've likely 1) enjoyed themselves and 2) absorbed most of the lessons the program offers.

  6. I'm on board with the "vote with your feet" theory. Strong troops will have an incoming new scout patrol every year with a few active parents to offset the natural attrition of kids hitting high school or otherwise aging out of the program.

    A strong troop can survive a "weak class" of scouts and parents, but can be derailed if they onboard 2 or 3 consecutive weak classes. A low number of incoming Scouts vs. prior years doesn't necessarily translate to a weak class if the scouts are well-behaved and the parents are willing helpers. Rather, the pitfall comes when troops onboard multiple scouts will behavior issues and parents who either don't support the program or whose presence becomes a net negative. 

    How many potentially great Scouts either never made it past Cub Scouts or quit too soon because they had one or two disruptive peers that ruined their experience?

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  7. On 4/8/2024 at 4:42 PM, AwakeEnergyScouter said:

    And why would the medium in which the opinion is expressed matter? Why would something be ok to say on a Zoom or online but not in person?

    I would say an adult leader meeting or online forum dedicated to "issues and politics" are acceptable places to discuss membership changes, whereas your child's Pinewood Derby or Blue and Gold Banquet are not. 

    Again, I'm generally onboard with the recent membership changes. I'm not suggesting the presence of girls or LGBT youth in Scouting is bad, unwanted, or antithetical to the aims of the organization.

    Change takes time. The BSA doesn't exactly have a great reputation for change management. 

  8. 1 hour ago, AwakeEnergyScouter said:

    I'm not sure I understood you correctly ...

    I'm suggesting it's OK for adults to express reservations about membership changes online or in a Zoom meeting, provided it's done in a tactful manner. There is no need to "crack down" on them unless their comments target specific youth members or are deliberately hurtful. If you feel a youth in your area has been treated unfairly, by all means intervene on their behalf.  Scouting would not exist in some communities today were it not for some of these "old school" scout leaders. Change takes time and I'm not sure you can get there by extinguishing dissent.

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  9. Change takes time. If you want people to embrace it, they need to feel like they have some control over their change. In the long run, it's better to earn respect than have it legislated.

    As a teenager, I thought homosexuality was a morally grey area - then I actually met a few gay people and realized "oh, if so and so is gay, it can't be that bad." A few years ago, I hired someone who happened to be gay. They turned out to be the best direct report I've ever had. My opinion of them is sky high. Today, I would wear a rainbow t-shirt and march in a parade with them if they asked.

    Had I seen more PowerPoints and pamphlets in my youth, I doubt I would have arrived at this level of acceptance / advocacy any faster. 🙂

     

  10. My favorite events are ones where I can just show up with my son and be a dad. I would gladly pay more in fees if it resulted in better, more frequent program opportunities at the council and district levels (unclear if that's the case). I'm a pretty frugal guy with a regular job and $165 doesn't seem that ridiculous by today's standards. Anyone else ashamed to admit what they spend on youth sports or their pets? 🙂

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  11. Gosh, re-reading this thread 2 years later brings up some strong opinions:

    1) I can sympathize to some degree because I've got a 1st grader who doesn't like going to school because of a few peers who play rough at recess. We've expressed some concerns, but have been rebuffed. I'm not sure I can tell him to stand up for himself because as soon he's seen pushing another kid, it would be our luck that the playground supervisors FINALLY assert themselves and he winds up labeled as the aggressor. 

    2) An adult bullying a child over the color of their t-shirt is definitely not OK, but if a single incident results in a YPT violation and report to the council, we're going to run out of leaders fast. My biggest fear as a Den Leader is that one poor choice of words (or stroll into the wrong latrine) lands my face in the newspaper and makes me a social pariah.

  12. On 3/11/2024 at 11:50 AM, RememberSchiff said:

    It is not a family event, it is not a youth event. 

    I'll admit the egg hunt is a bit outside the box, but I would imagine adults only fundraisers are common in most councils. Golf outings or wine tastings have obvious appeal to parents. Mom and Dad have money. Kids don't. 😛

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  13. I think what @Mrjeffmay be hinting at is that if you disagree with some elements of a DE&I initiative and voice your concerns in a tactful manner, you still risk being labeled the "worst type of person imaginable." There is no room for discourse in some public spaces and I find that scary.

    As a moderate conservative myself, I share some of his concerns (and wouldn't mind engaging in productive discussion around the others). Ultimately, it probably behooves us all to be 10% kinder and 10% more understanding (and maybe to love one another ... where have I heard that before? 😉)

    Even if you believe public schools are overstepping, you are still your child's first and most important teacher.

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  14. Welcome @niagarafalls!

    Scouting and Sports don't have to be a mutually exclusive (although I understand hockey to be a totally different animal).

    Unlike youth sports, it's OK to take a break from Scouting for a full season. If the BSA is going to survive, it needs to be OK being every kid's second favorite activity. Missing a Cub Scout Pack or Den meeting is inconsequential, IMHO. Provide the parents with the rank requirements that were missed and ask them to complete them at home on a best-efforts basis.

    It gets a little trickier in middle school and high school because a Scout may not advance as quickly as their peers, but if they are willing to communicate their availability with their SM/SPL and do extra work when their schedule permits, there's no reason why they still can't earn their Eagle Scout award before age 18 (even if they are only active 6 months per year).

    Something like ~70% of kids drop out of youth sports before high school. I bet a fair amount of them would have made fine Scouts. We juggle Scouts and youth basketball in our household and, at some point, I expect my son to go all-in on basketball because most pre-teen boys have a natural inclination to compete, dress like their friends, and impress girls.

    When that time comes, I don't mind paying for all of the camps and travel opportunities. My only conditions will be 1) he's got to be respectful to his coaches and peers, 2) he's got to let me know if it stops being fun, and 3) he's got to participate in Scouts or a second non-sport extracurricular when his schedule permits (to give himself options down the road).

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  15. 3 hours ago, InquisitiveScouter said:

    During our district Klondike Derby, I offered a one hour training class to adults, through five sessions during the day, while their Scouts were making the rounds to their stations.  Got 21 adult students, and great feedback on offering it while they were already in attendance of another event that did not require their participation or constant supervision...

    (in a warm place, btw ;P)

    That is the way. 🙂

    Below are two hypothetical conversations between my wife and I:

     

    Conversation #1:

    BwC: I need to go to camp on Saturday for some adult leader training.

    Mrs. BwC: I don't think so.

     

    Conversation #2:

    BwC: I need to go to camp on Saturday for some adult leader training, but they have some outdoor activities planned for the boy.

    Mrs. BwC: OK, when should I expect you home?

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  16. It would be nice if the district or council set up a parallel activity for scouts while their parent is being trained.

    Any onsite training, round table, etc. is a tough sell to my wife. Most parents either need to be working, taking care of the house, or spending time with their kids. The only reason I'm talking about Scouts online with internet friends right now is because everyone in my household is still sleeping.

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  17. I have a good relationship with my DE. If I text him, he will respond within an hour without fail. Even though he works evenings and weekends for what I'm sure amounts to less than $15/hour, he always makes volunteers feel acknowledged and appreciated. If we see him at a district or council event, he greets my son and I by name.

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  18. @JesseMills: I think you've correctly surmised that OA isn't the right activity for you; however, if you have skills that may be useful to an OA Lodge, you don't necessarily need to be an OA member to help out (provided your registration is current). Not every adult who cooks a meal or runs a chain saw at an OA event is a member. Maybe start by accepting an invite from the lodge to observe an event or help out at a work day?

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  19. On 11/21/2023 at 9:28 AM, fred8033 said:

    My real question is why?  Ask.  Why.  Get to know the scoutmaster.  Offer a coffee or cookie.  Then broach the question.  I suspect there is a different issue he's trying to solve.  Obsessive parents?  Too many parents?  Parents inserting themselves.  

    It's OK to raise an eyebrow at the situation, but I 100% agree with Fred here - start with the why, first.

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  20. 1 hour ago, Armymutt said:

    What's the point of repeatedly earning Bobcat every year? 

    I assume Cub Scouts won't repeat the same requirements every year; rather. they'll build-out their understanding gradually in age-appropriate increments.

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    Rank badges are a more tangible thing that the kids can sew on their uniform vs belt loops that require an additional uniform item be purchased.

    True, but I think a lot of Cub Scouts appreciate the instant recognition that the belt loops provide.

  21. This is the first time I've seen the Badges of Rank requirements lined up side-by-side since I returned to Scouting as a parent volunteer. Obviously, there have been a few changes since I was a Cub Scout and this view is really helpful. I assume Cubs would wear the Lion, Tiger, Wolf, and Bear rank badges in a diamond? I think that will look a lot sharper than having the Lion strip dangling below the other badges.

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