In the same manner in which I disavowed my loyalty to BSA following the abuse I was subjected to, I opted to leave the Catholic Church and not raise my children within the parish or send them to the Marianist high school I attended. How hypocritical (and dangerous) would it have been for me, a firsthand victim, to subject my kids to the possibility of the same treatment I received in Scouts or the abuse that was becoming evident within the Church and Marianist organizations? My life, marriage and family relationships were forever scarred from having to make those decisions, as the remainder of my large family remained with the Church, Marianists and Scouts (to the exclusion of myself, former wife and my kids).
I have struggled over the years with leaving the Church. But I am convinced that if there is a just and caring God, I won't be judged for having done so. Those who have chosen to continue with the BSA, in light of all the abuse, as well as those who did the same for the organized Catholic Church and Marianist-run schools do so with the full knowledge that caring for the abused comes along with the package.