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    • Independence....  Every kid goes thru some homesickness, to one degree or another, sometime. It may not be at camp, the grown  adult may not remember it or acknowledge it, but it was there.  Your Scout needs understanding and folks to acknowledge and accept his feelings, his reticence. He needs to join with and get to know the Scouts in his Troop and to be reassured that, yeah, he is feeling low and lonely and misses … mom? Dad?  but it will get better.  Sometimes all it takes is another kid to say "yeah, I felt like that, but it does get better."   Dealing with separation anxiety is tough.  Your boy must eventually learn and accept that 1) you and his home will be there when he gets back from wherever he goes. You WILL be there. 2) The divorce was NOT his fault, regardless of anything else he may have heard or decided. 3) Metaphorically, the world is his, he can take it in as slow or as fast as he wishes.  Fire burns, ice chills, the world reacts accordingly, it doesn't care who one is or where one comes from.  And Mom (Dad?) will be there when he gets back....  As he gains in life skills (doing his own laundry, cooking, putting stuff away so it will be there when he wants it the next time...) and Scouting will definitely help in this, he will come to realize  he needs mom for other stuff, and the tent he set up and slept in is just temporary fun, another experience to experience and have fun with.   Should you become a Scout Leader?  Absolutely, and help the other Scouts over their humps, just as the other Scouters will (I hope and expect!)  help your boy over his.  Repeat after me:  "Why don't you go ask your Patrol Leader?"  Find a book by Eric Sloane, "Diary of an Early American Boy".  If your young Scout is a reader, I think he would enjoy it.  If he likes doing with his hands,  find "A Reverence for Wood"  by Mr. Sloane.  Your boy may well become  a Troop Instructor.    See you on the trail.
    • I fully agree.  I'd also suggest developing your own plan for camp.  Such as ... bring two or three large books to read.  Or bring wood carving supplies for yourself.  Or work on your schoool lesson plans for next year.  Or a sewing kit.  Or take lots of naps.  Create a plan for yourself so that you are busy.  Maybe there are courses at the summer camp for adults to become trained adult leaders.  I've seen that too.  But make your activities boring for your son so that he goes off on his own with his friends and grows.
    • @ScoutMom45036, welcome to the forums! A couple of son #2's best buddies had anxiety issues ... maybe related to divorce, but usually it was more complicated than that. If the boy's telling you he's nervous about it now, it's a good indication that giong "cold turkey" wont work. Our troop has welcomed moms like you with kids like yours to come camp with us adults. You're not the problem mom who we generally worry about. Generally, you're good company, and you're not hovering over your son. You get to know the leaders and other parents and catch them up on the things your son is going through. You might actually do us a favor and mentor some of our other boys -- that's not expected, but when it happens, it's good to see. During the day, you might be able to help the camp staff . But, at the very least, by getting registered and trained, you'll get a sense of how we leaders should be accountable to one another. That's always helpful. One other thing you might not have noticed: but your son is old enough to take on chores. Make sure he's responsible for some things besides homework ... garbage pick-up and putting out ... setting up and cleaning up dishes ... helping you cook ... checking the doors/lights in the evening ... putting away laundry ... making his bed in the morning.  Just enough of those, and a week away from home begins to sound sweet.
    • We're a bit far afield, but I'm going to guess that you use EPIC in a "normal" practice or hospital setting?  If you're managing to make it even remotely useful for clinical trials/research data retrieval, you've managed to do something that's eluded Nationwide Children's and OSU's medical centers! If we hadn't had access to medical history information, we probably would have felt obliged to hit the panic button on our Garmin InReach and called in a life-flight.  Having a few details from the medical history helped us decide that we could responsibly go with getting the individual to personal vehicle and bugging out in the direction of an ER.  To be sure, we rolled the dice on this one.  Having been dead before, I take cardiac symptoms rather seriously.  If we hadn't had someone saying "look here at this, it's plausibly X instead", I would not have been comfortable with that risk. I don't know enough about epilepsy, and particularly your variety, to know whether there's something different that should be done for first aid for it, compared to other medical emergencies that might look the same to someone giving first aid.  If there's absolutely no difference in what should be done for you, and anyone else who happens to have a non-epileptic seizure, and whatever information that would help EMTs is on your dog-tags, then I don't see how sharing information about your condition would be helpful on your medical history. Dog-tags might be a good solution.  I'm not well-educated on what information can be encoded on them, what is required to access it, and whether there are any impediments to retrieving that information in areas without cell-phone/wireless coverage.  It's also not clear whether they satisfy the requirements of whatever state laws that BSA apparently feels they need to satisfy, regarding camping regulations.   Certainly, if they carry all the necessary information and satisfy legal requirements, having the person's medical history on the person would be a lot more helpful than having it in a binder of forms locked back in the troop van at the trailhead!
    • I agree with that.  My question was about @The Latin Scot's statement that he was looking into forming an "LDS-minded unit" that follows "LDS values."  I am not sure what values he has in mind.  If it is things like The Golden Rule, help the poor, thou shalt not steal, etc., great, because those are Scouting values as well.  If it is things like, the troop doesn't camp on Sunday so the members can fulfill their religious obligations according to LDS church, that's fine too, but it is usually up to the CO to impose something like that, and I don't know what CO would impose something like that other than the LDS church itself, which by definition is NOT going to be the CO after the end of the year.  If it means no girls in a pack, and/or no "girls' troop", that's up to the CO as well.
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