This post is part inquiry & part vent... it might be more vent than anything
I'm new to scouting. My older son joined as a Tiger and didn't enjoy it at all... I was able to convince him to join again midway through Web II and he loved it and crossed over last May. He received First Class in October and is really enjoying Boy Scouts. Because of his experience we encouraged his little brother to join Cub Scouts this year. In October we still did not have a Bear den leader and I offered to 'lead' things until someone could officially take over. At that point, I really had no clue how things are run and re-chartering and everything else. We obviously needed our leaders trained so I was quickly pulled in to the "official mix" of things. And I'm loving all that scouting represents. Happy to do it.
My questions:
How much work is reasonable to be expected to be done at home? How much is typically done at home?
Is it common for dens to assign a family to lead a particular adventure or meeting or does that responsibility tend to fall on the den leader?
Approximately how many months does it take to complete rank requirements? Any experience with Bears specifically (realizing this is the first year of the new program)?
We have a somewhat small den with 5 scouts. They are all new to scouting. 2 are certainly challenging (which I knew, and part of the reason why I said I would help lead things... b/c I understand the challenging ones) Apparently I don't understand the challenging parents ;-) I had a parent tell me that we really needed to accomplish everything at den meetings because they won't be able to do anything at home. Foolishly, I told her I would do my best... Now she is often frustrated with me b/c I don't communicate plans to her 1 to 2 weeks ahead of time. I have gathered all the supplies for every thing we have done and when I do send projects home, I send all materials in gallon bags with everything the scouts need to complete them... Guess who doesn't do any of the work??
Truth be told, I'm proud of our little den and all that we have accomplished. The boys are having a great time and that's all that matters to me. My understanding is that the program is designed to be June 1 - May 31 and rank requirements will take a substantial amount of that time... We didn't have our first den meeting until the end of October and will achieve everything -except camping!?!?- by our Advancement ceremony in a couple weeks.
Our pack has a big family campout Memorial Weekend and our Bears will have pitched tents, packed, cooked meals outside and done all of their requirements beforehand, except actually sleep overnight. Despite my constant encouragement (and begging!) no one is Baloo trained in our den -we have 1 in the pack but schedule conflicts- I work many weekends (and happened to work each time the district offered training). Our pack is young and we have just 2 Webelos this year so I have explained to my parents that we are all essentially the leaders of the pack since the younger ones & families will be following our lead and looking to us for guidance...
What to do when parents aren't involved... and you need parents? They are quick with the "Let us know how we can help!" ... but they aren't into outdoor activities (only want to participate in sunny weather ... um. We are in Seattle area so this could be a problem...)
I didn't sign up to do everything. As a matter of fact, I didn't even volunteer to be a den leader! (I know that's a common story...) My son is loving it and now I find myself going with him to Boy Scout Camporee & the upcoming Webelos Resident Camp... just us. No one else is interested. My hope was/is for him to be able to go off and grow - without me. As much as I am loving it...and he is loving me as his den leader... I want him to experience Cub Scouts without his mom! We've invited scouts & friends over to work on some of the electives (Marbles, Rube Goldberg machines, Science experiments) and 3 of the 5 scouts don't take it to the next level and complete whatever I don't provide for them. The one time my son and his friend (fellow scout) worked on something together at the house - I offended a couple moms because we were exclusive and i am the leader... it's not fair for me to have just one scout over because he is my son's friend. This all leads me to concerns over the fact that come next fall - my son will be well on his way of requirements... I'm tempted to do a Lone Scout... (sigh)
Apologies. That turned in to a pretty big vent. Just looking for encouragement and advice! I know I'm not the first to experience these things...
Thank you! I'm in the middle of an email to the parents... when I thought to inquire about reasonable expectations and timelines...
Recap:
How much work is reasonable to be expected to be done at home? How much is typically done at home? What type of things are worked on outside of den meetings?
Is it common for dens to assign a family to lead a particular adventure or meeting or does that responsibility tend to fall on the den leader?
Approximately how many months does it take to complete rank requirements? Any experience with Bears specifically (realizing this is the first year of the new program)?
Thank you all so much!
NKaye