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  1. I just wanted to thank everyone for their assistance. My plan is to - a. Help financially with the costs, b. Encourage him when he wants to quit, and c. Let him do the rest himself. He gets counseling, but I am not his parent or guardian, so I have no idea how it goes. I do feel much more confident that scouting will be good for my nephew, and that I can do the right thing to help him along. Happy Memorial Day to everyone
  2. Thank your for your response and your kind words. I am going to do whatever I can to support my nephew. I am not a parent myself, but it has always amazed me how some people treat their kids. As I said before my nephew is the one pushing the Eagle rank, because he hopes it will make a positive change in his life. I support him, but tell him that being happy and healthy is the most important thing. I even once joked with him that if he wants to get back with parents and older sister, he should relax and enjoy as much as possible. The sight of it would drive them crazy. However, he
  3. Thank you for your response. The leadership and "Patrol Method" is something I think my nephew will have problems with. He is a total loner, and very bright but solitary. I think being outdoors though may spark something positive in him. He loves animals and likes open spaces. I personally could never understand the cult of "leadership" thing. I worked for and with many organizations, and they more they talk about leadership, the worse the organization performs. From my experiences the nature of work is changing so much, that "leadership" is kind of obsolete. But maybe something
  4. Thank you for your response. Some of your comments were scarily prescient. I think to a certain extent my nephew is already lost to my sister and her husband, and its their fault not his. As for his older sister, a cousin of mine said almost the exact same thing about her having no limits. I do not like to be too judgmental, because show is still young. I think my nephew inside knows that he will never please his parents, but just cannot admit it.
  5. Thank you for your response. I am going to encourage my nephew to take a one day at a time view of his scouting experience. I think part of the problem is that he has so little in his life, that he feels that he has to "milk" every experience for all he can get.
  6. Thank you again for your response. I will take the advise that you and others have been kind enough to give, and tell my nephew that planning everything out will only make things worse. The problem is he is so intense, and his life has been so limited that he does not know how to enjoy himself.
  7. Thank you for your response, and the input about the merit badges that I did not understand. You made some very good suggestions. I have already told my nephew that I will buy he uniform and books he needs, that way his mother cannot complain about "spending all that money". A job is difficult because his parents only want him to go to school and be quiet. Also, whenever he gets any money his old sister either steals it, or his mother makes him spend it on her to show how much he "appreciates all she has done for him". Unfortunately, the only friends my nephew has are his dog and h
  8. Thank you for your response. Your son sounds like an outstanding young man, and hopeful my nephew will meet someone like him in scouts. I was just concerned about all the schoolwork merit badges, because I think that is what my nephew needs to get away from (books, computers, TV...) and into the real world.
  9. Thank you for your response (honestly). I appreciate the point that you were trying to make, and as I said in my response above, my nephew is the one pushing it. To be honest, I do not know if scouting is even right for him, and he does not need anymore bad experiences. He is academically brilliant, and does not really need to get three different badges in citizenship(?). All he does is school work right now. My nephew is trying to do a good thing, improve his lot in life by doing something constructive. I sincerely believe that scouting is a worthwhile endeavor, but I am not certa
  10. Thank you for your response. I understand completely your concern about me doing to much for my nephew. I have always been "overly proactive", and the hardest thing for me to do is nothing. Regarding your question, my nephew is the one pushing this. He is a very intense and obsessive-type. His family is definitely NOT pushing it. They never give him any time or attention. His mother and father split their time between complaining, self-pity and worrying about what other people might think. Any time or energy they have goes exclusively to his older sister. He is just there to mow
  11. My nephew wants to be a Boy Scout and earn the rank of Eagle.​ I told him that he should just relax and enjoy himself, but he is very intense. I was never an Boy Scout, but I am good at planning and have research the required merit badges for Eagle Rank (I know their are other requirements, but right now the involve so many variables that you cannot plan for them). I know no plan survives contact with reality, so I wanted to get some input from people with real world experience. The goal is for him to make Eagle Rank by about the beginning of high school. That would allow about fo
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