I agree that slowly is the way to go, and maybe I haven't been in the troop long enough to be accepted (not quite two years as a parent, and a year and a half on committee, present every meeting, doing BORs almost every meeting). And you're right, Buffalo, I haven't been able to get the background info on why some folks think they should hold boys back for the sake of holding them back. Guess that's my frustration - there doesn't seem to BE a reason for it.
As I originally said, one of the best things about this troop is that I trust the leadership, and that means a lot to me, so I do pic