I am a Tiger leader. This is my first year as a leader, however my oldest son is now a Bear so I've been doing this for a while. Our cubmaster is an arrogant know-it-all who talks to everyone like they are children. Screams at the kids sometimes. Will tell you the rock is green when it is clearly red is very disrespectful especially towards women and is not doing his job properly. But on to the specific problem:
Everytime my boys earn something, I send him an email and a copy of the email I hand to him with the list of patches/belt loops etc.. that he needs to purchase for the next pack meeting. My first order was sent before Christmas. He didn't purchase anything. I resent the list to him and gave him for the Christmas party/pack meeting. He shows up with the list in his hand and still didn't have mostly everything for my boys. Then when parents walk up to him asking where their son's Bobcat badge is, he tells them that I never told him that boy needed a bobcat. I had to jump in and say, "hello, you're holding my email with all the info" Then he says, oh yeah I see it know. I'll have to get it for the next pack meeting.
Several pack meetings, and patches/awards earned later: I still have boys that have not received their Bobcat, or anything else. I have sent several emails to him and handed him the paper in person.
When a parent goes up to him and asks where their son's stuff is he says, "Talk to your leader"
I am beyond infuriated at this point. I also had a child with no boat for the raingutter regatta that he was told several times about. I had to let the kid use my son's boat just so he could race.
He is also doing this to my son's Bear leader. Another lady who is also angry. Her son still doesn't have his Wolf badge from the previous year and none of the boys in her den have their awards.
Last week he told me that I cancelled a den meeting at the last minute and I shouldn't have done that. He didn't even know I cancelled it because he never looks at his email or answers the phone. I cancelled my meeting on a Tuesday morning for a Thursday night meeting. Some parents showed up. He claims they were angry.
And at the last den meeting, I was outside talking to my son's den leader about weight loss. She was telling me she gained weight since quitting smoking. He walks over to her and puts his hand on her abdomen and shakes it (because it was a little pudgy). Then he tells her he's going to be looking at her butt jiggling while she's walking down the hall now that he knows she's gaining weight. He also made a comment about a woman he can't stop looking at because her nipples are always hard. I was completely horrified and embarrassed by his comments. And the boys were playing 10 feet in front of us.
This is just some of the stuff that he does. I didn't even scratch the surface. His son is moving up to Boy Scouts next year. You would think he would move up with him, but it doesn't look like that's happening.
What would be the right thing to do about this?
Another problem: I work as an assistant Girl Scout leader with his wife in my daughter's troop. I like her, and she doesn't know that I can't stand her husband. I don't want her to find out if I complain to the people up the ladder.
Help!
