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my pack lacks the umph to do anything. our cm wont even bring things up like scout night at baseball if she doesnt want to go or to run it even though I have offered to run and take care of what ever outing is there for the boys to do. and our DL she is just a ***** cant and wont say the word on here. we just had a den meeting last night and told me she wont give the boys who earnred their wolf rank their rank at the B&G because the teacher in her cant see how they have completed it by now. and she will give it to them at the crossover in May and no sooner, and the CM told us its up to her when they get it. Not getting the awards and such is because the DL's are so disorganized even for being a teacher. And she told us that what do we want for the boys to be filled up on their shirts with awards and things. ( WELL YES ISNT THAT WHAT SCOUTS LIKE TO DO EARN THINGS FOR THEIR SHIRTS AND BELTS AND BRAG VESTS TO SHOW OFF WHAT THEY HAVE DONE) or an I totally wrong in what I think scouting is about. I though it was for the boys to have fun and learn something as they go not learn stuff and if they have fun doing it well thats a bonus. because the later is true in our den. I have tried to step in and help and have tried to stay out of things but when its almost the B&G and they are only now getting their bobcat badge its a bit disturbing. we have found a new pack much more put together and they do things for the boys not to entertain the parents.

How do you get the parents of our den to be more involved in their sons den. We recently had a service projest which the boys were supposed to bring in a baby item to be donated to a place to homeless moms. I could have died when over half the parents brought in used and i mean USED baby items. This projuect was for them to earn their beltloop. One parent even brought in a toy that was falling apart. Now the boys and parents were told that it was for the boys to do as it was for their beltloop not the parents. Two out of the 9 boys actually bought the item with their own money. The DL counted that all the boys did their service project but if it was up to me they wouldnt have earned it unless they did it themselves right? or am I being to hard on them, they are wolves. The only time the parents get involved is when they will actually have fun like the B&G or going to some outing. but its like pulling teeth to get them to anything for the den meetings. Have asked many times for simple items like milk cartons, paper towel rolls to do projects with their boys so that they may complete an achievement or elective. but no one ever brings anything.

i know the mom you are talking about she is a good friend she told me about this site. we live pretty close together and both think that each of our packs suck. no fun all disorganized. we both are very organized people and both are single parents. council said i am able to bring daughter to meeting if need be. better a parent bring a child to a meeting than to have no leader at all.

I was recently asked if I would like to be the new cm since the old one is moving on with her son. I am new to this leader position and dont know what it really involves. They gave me two different books to read but that really doesnt tell me what is REALLY involved. They like the way I rally our den, since both our den leaders are airheads and cant plan anything or the stuff they do is so boring. Everyone keeps telling me I'd be great but I'm scared as to I have 7month old at home. Someone help me please.

WOW! I wish I could find a pack like alot of people talk about on here. the three packs I have been in are just about better to stop running then to run. My latest pack is just a joke. No one has a clue that this is all about the boys not them. And to make it fun for them to want to stay into til eagle scout.

Thank you all for your replies. I now know that I can go outside my area, the school districts are pretty close in running days off around each other from around my area atleast. I'm just worried that I'll be labeled a trouble maker for wanting the pack and den to actually do fun things with the boys and meet more than 2x a month and to have outings. And for the other parents to see the electives and beltloops as part of the program not something that they can just skip because they dont want to work with their son on sny of this outside of the scout meetings. Or am i just expecting to much out of scouting? i remember my brother going they went weekly and had a outing once a month went fishing atleast 4x a year and went camping 3x a year and did both the pwd and the raingutter races. they were always doing something fun and exciting and he always looked forward to going. My son asked me ever meeting is there going to be anything fun to do. the dl have a habit of just sitting the boys down and talking about the achievments. And our pack meetings are more for the parents to get info about things coming up. why cant people get it that you have to keep the boys active and having fun for them to stay in it.

Thanks for all the replies. It would be different if i didnt KNOW that the 90% of the other dads built the car. You hear them talking to themselves about how they built it. I know my son is learning a lesson about right and wrong and that he will know in future years that he worked hard on his car. But is it right for me to have to listen to a child who has emotional problems cry for 2days now that he will never build anything else. He is a boy who loves toi use a dremel and a cordless screwgun, to sand and screw pieces of scrap wood together. I hear all you points and i thank you. Does anyone think that making it a mandatory build with the pack event would be good? I know he will grow out of cring about this and about not wanting to build and tinker anymore.

i was wondering if i could go to a town next to mine for their cub scout pack. our pack does nothing. no working on awards, beltloops, electives. nothing i am the only mom working on these in our den and the other dens arent much better maybe only the tiger cubs are working on electives. no one wants to do anything for the 75th anniversary except me. but no one will listen that it will be great for the boys to learn where cubscouting came from and how things where in different years. some of my friends have said why dont i start a pack but as a newbie to all this and a brnd new mom ontop of it i know nothing about the running of a pack. i just want my son to have fun and enjoy cubscouting not hate it and get bored with it. he has fun when i do the activity for the den meeting which is only 2x a month if that when there is a holiday, dec we only met 1x for a xmas party. i dont want to seem ungrateful for the people doing this and wouldnt mind taking over as den leader but they willnot give uo their roles they think they are doing freat and they cm thinks so too even though i think out of the 9 wolves we have my son and one other are the only ones who have completed their wolf achievements. and can i say we havent even been awarded their bobcat badges yet. well they earned them but the dl hasnt turned in the papers yet. and our cm hasnt even heard of some of the awards i am working on with my son like the emergency awareness award. even better the parents and the leaders turn to me to find out about the beltloop requirments. let me stop myself before i fill two pages. ANY HELP IS VERY MUCH APPRECIATED. TY

LET ME START BY VENTING MY ANGER THAT WHY IS IT THAT THE DADS OR MOMS BUILD THESE CARS AND TRY TO SAY THAT HIS OR HER SON BUILT IT ALL BY THEIRSELVES. MY SON WAS DEVESTATED WHEN WE TURNED OUR CAR IF FOR WEIGHT IN AS HE LOOKED AT THE CARS. HE BUILT HIS ALL HIMSELF NO HELP FROM ANYONE. I KNOW HE SHOULD FEEL PRIDE THAT HE DID IT ALL HIMSELF AND KNOWING THAT SHOULD HELP HIM. BUT IT DOESNT WHEN HE LOSES BOTH HIS RACES IN THE STUPID DOUBLE ELIMINATION. OUR WINNERS FROM THE PACK WERE ALL TIGER CUBS AND LET ME TELL YOU THEY DIDNT EVEN PAINT THEIR CARS MUCH LESS TAKE A SAW TO THEM. BUT NO ONE SEEMS TO CARE. IS IT ONLY ME THAT GETS UPSET WITH THIS. I THOUGHT LAST YEAR WHEN HE WAS IN A DIFFERENT PACK THEY HAD THE RIGHT IDEA WE THE PARENT CHOOSED TO EITHER HAVE THE GUTTER BOAT RACES OR THE BOYS HAD TO BUILD THEIR CARS WITH THE PACK ON 6 WEEKENDS. AND THE CARS STAYED WITH THE PACK AND WAS NOT TAKEN HOME. WE DECIDED TO GO WITH THE BOATS. THE KIDS LOVED IT THEY HAD A BETTER CHANCE WITH WINNING SINCE EACH BOY IN THE DEN RACED ALL THE BOYS IN THAT DEN AND THEN THE TOP BOY FROM EACH DEN RACED AGAINST EACH OTHER. THEY HAD A BLAST SINCE THEY GOT TO RACE SO MUCH.

on a couple different forums people talk about campership can someone explain what this is?

i am looking for help with finding affordable uniforms. have looked in the thrift stores, no packs around here have a uniform closet. i am a single mom who can barely make ends meet. i dont have $100 to shell out for pants, shirts, socks, hat, neckerchief, slide, book and everything else. i thought scouting was supposed to bo for everyone. in two monthes we have a uniform inspection and i feel bad that my son doesnt have any of the uniform to wear. who priced this stuff anyway. i dont want my son missing out on things because of me. i have asked other parents if they have an older uniform but no one has one. and they all know my situation but none are willing or able to help. WHAT CAN I DO????