Thanks for comments so far....
Unit is chartered by a church. Problem is made bigger by the fact that the CC is the SM's wife (awkward situation), and the COR was one of the adults up there (a pastor who didn't feel the need to disclose the alcohol). The CC was present at the meeting, but turned it over to the COR to run. He shaped the whole thing like we should support SM, help him work through personal issues, and give him something to look forward to. I agree that the SM needs to resign for personal reasons, but how to do that when adults up there and wife say he should be able to com