Jump to content

Recommended Posts

This is just something to keep in mind


If during a thread you have to use a sentence like, "thats not what I meant at all" or "I dont know how you got that from what I wrote" for the third time or more, it may be time to consider a few things:


A. Your prose is not as cogent as you thought. Look at my example, I thought I was going to launch a discussion about who was the better ball player, Ty Cobb or Pete Rose and I end up singing Cub fan songs. So, if you have to post other 3 times how misunderstood you are, perhaps you need to work on your presentation


B. The person you think is mis-stating your position is doing it to get a reaction out of you so perhaps the best move is to move on.


Well, those are my two points, I am sure many more can and will be added, but just because someone says they dont agree with you doesnt mean you have to move heaven and earth to change their opinion. Diversity of thought makes us strong and from what I can tell, this is one muscular place(This message has been edited by OldGreyEagle)

Link to post
Share on other sites

Ah hah, so you're saying that if we don't understand something you wrote then it's because we're stoopid? It's not very Scout-like to call other people stoopid you know. (insert smily thingy) (which means I don't mean what I just said but I said it anyway with a smily thingy so I'm off the hook for being rude, or whatever that thingy is supposed to mean.)


Relative to re-stating another person's position, a simple "could you re-word that?" would be more effective. It's his opinion, let him restate it. The audience must really question the motive when someone re-writes the position of another, making it read idiotically extreme in the process, and prefacing it with "so what you're saying is ..." . We have a few masters of that art here.


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ah, FScouter, I'm not sure you quite have the hang of the smileys yet. :-)


The intentional creation of a rude statement, with an appended smiley as a supposed get-out-of-jail free card, just doesn't end up passing muster. It still, in fact, comes across as rude.


Which I guess is the point that you're trying to make about other posters, but the thing is, the other posters are actually saying things in a friendly way - I'm sorry if you don't see that.

Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh, yes, if I was taking the thread off on a tangent - sorry. That's not what I meant to do at all :-)


OGE - your point is well taken.


I'd add one more suggestion - if someone responds to your position, but restates your position in a slightly different fashion, you don't need to go nuts and assume that they are maliciously misrepresenting you.


A: I feel like my existence is meaningless.

B: Why do you think your life has no meaning?

A: Did I say 'life'? NO - I said 'existence'! Stop putting words in my mouth!

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Create New...