ladyleader

I must agree with MaScout - in that I must be upfront and convey to the parents that I will email all parties regarding scouting activities and the like. However, I will not be a go=between and anything they don't want the other parent to know, shouldn't be said to me. 'Cause I can't remember who who/who not to convey scout informationn to.

Thanks for the advice. I agree that I should not be led to be the scapegoat. I've got 8 boys and 1/3 live in 2 households. These parents have equal shared custody. We've only got one month left (our unit does not frequently meet over the summer). So starting in September, I'll be frank with the parents and tell them I will not be notifying 6 extra households of the den's calendar. The parent that shows up at the den meetings will be the primary contact in my book.

On the other hand, I believe I must be more descreet in my dealings with the "other parent". I'll be honest, with so much on my mind between scouting, church, volunteering at school, managing my family - I forget little things from time to time. I can't recall if the one parent told me not to tell the other parent. I do know that she was holding back the info from the scout, for whatever reason. All in all, the family will be moving on and I must too. Thanks.

This is my first year as a den leader (Tigers) and am experiencing communication problems with separated parents. Parents that are not on a unified front for their cubscout are particularly hard to deal with. I recently found out that one of my scouts is moving and both the mother and father are supportive of their scout's activities and events, however, the one parent hadn't informed the other that they were moving out of the area. The parent asked me about the transfer process and I assumed that the other parent was on the same page and told him of the transfer process. Apparently, the two parents blew up at each other at a scouting event and blamed me for letting the cat out of the bag.

I'm seriously considering stepping down as leader if I've got to put up with this "he said-she said" situations. Do I just pick one parent to deal with and assume that the parents are communicating? Help.

Thanks