Adult smokers - a perspective
Jan Mussler (mussler@SPOT.COLORADO.EDU)
Sat, 29 Mar 1997 12:46:22 -0700
Just so you know, I've vehemently against smoking, especially around
youth. But I learned a valuable lesson a few weeks ago from a dear friend
who is a smoker. We were at work and one of the guys and I were picking
on my friend the smoker. You know, well there she goes, it's 10AM etc.
She turned around this time and really chewed us out. Would we do this to
someone who's fat, would she pick on me for my lactose intolerance? The
answer is - no, we probably wouldn't. We were rude and insensitive. Talk
about feeling bad! This is a good friend! I realized that it's ME who
has some deepseated feelings about smoking (attributed to my mother's
early death) and I had some misguided feeling that if I nagged my fiend
enough, she'd quit and I'd be spared losing her. Well, she won't, anyway
not because I want her to, but when she can and wants to. It made me sad
to think someday she might be ill, but this is something I can't control.
she truly feels discriminated against and I never realized just how must.
Sensitivity to others feeling is truly a great gift. Just my 2 cent
worth.
YIS,
Jan Mussler, Bear DL, Pack 170, Nederland, CO
mussler@spot.Colorado.EDU
Arapahoe District, Longs Peak Council
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