From: 6 Pak Pepsi (wchapel@INNW.NET)
Date: Wed Mar 15 2000 - 16:40:19 CST
Let's stop this now! We are adults, lets not condemn others because
they don't have time. You don't know what all another person has on
their platter! If you are just in this for a pat on the back you are
here for the wrong person.
I too, am really working at saying "no" and it does me no good having it
thrown in my face because others can manage to do so much more than I
can. I am sure it does others no good either. I do know that there are
parents out there that should be able to help more, but when a parent
says they can't handle anymore trust them! They no better what they can
handle, what is already on their agenda.
When one volunteers to do something, let them and thank them. Don't
turn around and redo it, if there is a problem, give them a chance, you
don't know what they went through to get it done - But the important
part is that the "loafer" is trying to be helpful. And if you are able
to -
{snipped from another post}
"Another one guaranteed to irk me was, "I simply have too many
other things to do, to be able to help out." There I stood as the Den
Leader/Cub Master, mother of 4 kids, worked outside of my home, involved
in PTA, the School District's Special Education Advisory Committee and
CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity
Disorder), volunteered in the classroom, etc. I used to just shake my
head and think, "It's just a matter of priorities." ;^) "
or even this from another post -
"would still be Cubmaster if my son hadn't moved on, so now I'm "just"
Asst Cubmaster, Day Camp coordinator, Scout Fair superintendent, Boy
Scout committee member, Girl Scout mom, 4-H mom (same girl) & homework
slave (gee I wonder where my time goes)"
Notice how she marked her just. If you are able to do a list like one
of these two examples from the list of resent posts, good for you! But
that makes you no better than the parent who makes sure the Scout and
uniform arrive at the meetings, even if that means being a driver as not
all scouts live with in walking distance, and is not able to participate
much else. Maybe even just getting the Scout to a activity is a "chore,
burden, work" what ever you want to call.
Not trying to flame anybody, I just don't like feeling like I am no good
because I have 4 loving kids and a husband, and myself to think about
when I commit to doing something.
Sharon
I at one time was just a full time worker, but over the last 15+
years..... I became a wife and full time worker, then had a kid, became
a full-time homemaker and had a second kid and the first involved in Tee
Ball, became a Bear leader, became a Webelo leader/Committee Member and
the eldest has been active every year in baseball but added football,
then became a Webelo II leader/ Committee Chair, had a third child,
eldest joins Boy scouts and I become Troop Committee member. Last year
I was still a wife had a fourth child, was UC for the original pack and
home schooled the eldest
for the 3rd year, played chauffeur for the 13 year old between scouts
(approx. 28 miles one way), Babe Ruth Baseball (oops I forgot I was
score keeper again) anywhere from in our town to 35 miles one-way,
Football 35 miles one way. This year still a wife of 16 years, mom to 4
kids from 14 in July to 1 in June, and driver to Scouts, Babe Ruth, Tee
Ball again, I hope football is out! - and you know there have been a
lot of other activities the past nearly 16 years.
